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A Boon For Sanborn’s Unhappy Couples

Welcome back, Sanbornians! It has been a long time since our last issue, and boy are we happy to be back!

Speaking of happiness, did you know that Sanborn County ranks among the top in the country for divorce statistics? Yes, in yet another instance of our citizens coming out on a list of dubious distinctions, we rank among the best in terms of both divorce rate and brevity of marriage. Congratulations!

There have been quite a few spectacular divorce meltdowns in our town, with many of the citizens regularly attending divorce court proceedings as a form of entertainment. Some describe these cases as ‘having more fireworks than the annual 4th of July celebrations, except without the resultant forest fires.’ High praise, considering the shows have been considered some of the most reckless and destructive north of the border!

Many such citizens may be disappointed to learn that the younger generations are moving away from messy court proceedings and pursuing other methods of legal separation from their spouses. One of the most common and effective alternatives to have gained popularity in the last few years has been mediation.

Mediation involves an independent third party to work with the couple to divvy up the shared assets and develop a plan for custody arrangements that both can agree to. Unfortunately for Sanbornian couples, they have typically needed to travel quite a distance to make use of these services, though that is set to change soon.

McNamee Mediations, a Newport Beach divorce mediation firm that has acted as one of the most successful in the industry, is opening up a branch office right here in Sanborn, drawn no doubt to our impressive statistics. McNamee has already been helping quite a few of our citizens, and the reviews for the firm could not be more sterling:

As much as I wish I didn’t have to write a review for these services… Colleen has been nothing short of a miracle worker.  I have been going through a painful and messy divorce but I am so thankful for Colleen’s understanding, kind nature and expertise to make a difficult situation at least tolerable.  She is completely fair and I appreciate that she will call me out when I’m being unreasonable and can get me to look at things from another perspective while also feeling like she’s on my side.  I had doubts that we could come to any agreement without having to go through lawyers and an ugly court battle but she was able to do just that.  I highly recommend her services – don’t go anywhere else!

– Christina C., Yelp Review
Read Sharie M.‘s review of McNamee Mediations on Yelp

I called Coleen McNamee because I needed info on mediating my separation/divorce. Sadly during our initial conversation we realized she was unable to help me because of the county my court is in. She doesn’t service that area. She was kind, considerate, understanding and an all around good human! I do wish I could have worked w her because of how knowledgeable and pleasant she was. She answered all my questions even after she knew she wouldn’t be able to get my business!

Even though I couldn’t work w her…I wanted to give a great review because I feel she’d be a great asset if you’re going through a miserable time & need support!

– Cathy R., Yelp Review

If you are a Sanbornian couple looking to add to our statistic – or a couple anywhere that is looking for an effective and less destructive method of ending your marriage, consider calling McNamee. An equitable ending to your relationship is far better for your health and future prospects than an entertaining, yet highly contentious, divorce proceedings.

McNamee Mediations

+19492233836

4590 MacArthur Blvd Suite 500, Newport Beach, CA 92660

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Local Entrepreneur And Socialite Divorce Amidst Corporate Bankruptcy

Jennifer Hall was thinking about Tyler Hall again. Tyler was a violent brute, unbeknownst to those who worshipped him as a successful entrepreneur.

Jennifer walked over to her window and reflected on her picturesque surroundings. She had always loved Sanborn County. It was a place that inspired her, yet it brought out her depression because she had moved so far away from her friends and family. Marrying Tyler a decade ago seemed like such a good idea, but little did she know that their marriage would leave her feeling alone and isolated.

Then, she saw something in the distance, or rather someone. It was the tall, looming figure of Tyler. He had just pulled into the driveway and began to walk inside.

Jennifer gulped. She could always tell by his stride if he was in a bad mood coming home from work. He was a controlling, mean alcoholic. His friends saw him as a narcissistic control freak. Once, he even made his lead engineer have a mental breakdown at the office because he had worked the team to the bone to meet an insane product launch deadline.

The rain came pouring down. Jennifer was stressed. As he stepped inside and slammed the front door behind him, Jennifer felt her back freeze.

“Look Jennifer,” growled Tyler, with an arrogant glare. “It’s not that I don’t love you, but I want you to leave town for the weekend. I’m sick and tired of never being alone.”

Jennifer looked at him, shocked. “You want me to leave because you can’t stand me? Fine! You know what? Let me leave you for good! I want a divorce.”

Tyler was startled. His mind started to race. His company had not been performing well. He and Jennifer hadn’t signed a prenuptial agreement. They had been to marriage counseling for his alcoholism and violent behavior, but nothing had improved.

He took a deep breath. “Jennifer, I-.” Before he could say another word, she screamed back at him: “Tyler, I want a divorce! I hate you! I want a divorce NOW. We are ending this marriage and I am taking half of your money!”

“I’m afraid I declared my company bankrupt today,” explained Tyler.

“No!” objected Jennifer. “You liar! Do you think I’m stupid?!”

“I do not!” retorted Tyler. “If you want a divorce—fine. But there’s no point in hiring a lawyer and taking me to court, Jennifer. My company is dying and you aren’t going to walk away with anything from the business. That’s why I thought we needed to take a break. I needed time and space to process…how…stressful it’s been. Everything has gotten worse in the last year.”

Woman in White Dress Shirt Sitting Beside Woman in White Long Sleeve Shirt

What will happen next to Tyler and Jennifer Hall? We will be following this story closely and reporting back. For now, here is a bit of divorce advice.

For those who are in a financially strained, high-conflict marriage, we recommend avoiding litigation altogether. Couples who already have severe unresolved issues during the marriage will only find themselves more at odds with one another in court. Furthermore, traditional divorce can cost tends of thousands of dollars in legal fees per person.

Instead, consider mediation, a process facilitated by a neutral third party who will objectively act in the best interests of both parties to reach mutual terms of separation.

Read cindy c.‘s review of McNamee Mediations on Yelp

We highly recommend McNamee Mediations, one of the best mediators in the country. You can give them a call today!

McNamee Mediations
4590 MacArthur Blvd Suite 500, Newport Beach, CA 92660

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Choose Happiness Over Heartbreak

The memoir “Eat, Pray, Love” by Elizabeth Gilbert begins as the author realizes that she is unhappy in her seemingly perfect life. She finds that choosing happiness would mean making an extremely difficult decision, which is to leave her husband and the life they have created together. She begins to experience heartbreak and the disillusion of a marriage and a life she no longer wants to lead

“The only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying; the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving. I didn’t want to destroy anything or anybody. I just wanted to slip quietly out the back door, without causing any fuss or consequences, and then not stop running until I reached Greenland.” 

Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

As it becomes clear that the author and her husband want to separately lead very different lives, the story reveals the painful process of walking away from a relationship, despite it being in search of a more fulfilling life. Gilbert chronicles her lengthy difficult divorce and how it causes immense grief, loneliness, and depression. Her ex-husband is angry at what feels like betrayal to him, and expresses his angst through the entire process.

As we learn throughout the book, change is inevitable, and we are not in control of everything that happens in life. Even when we achieve happiness and success at some point in our lives, we may later find that we have changed and that what we’ve always known is no longer what is best for us. Nothing is certain when it comes to our careers, health, and relationships.

Drastic life changes are often regarded as a “leap of faith”; a risk that requires a tremendous amount of courage to act on. However, as Gilbert shows us, taking control of one’s destiny is merely a willingness to experience all parts of life’s journey. It takes willingness to have difficult conversations with your life partner, someone you’ve devoted yourself entirely to. It takes willingness to endure their backlash, shock, and anger. It takes willingness to be patient throughout the process. It takes willingness to accept the imperfections of the journey. The key takeaway of this chapter in Gilbert’s story is to illustrate that real life is not a Disney fairytale or a glamorous Hollywood movie – life has incredibly painful moments that we must all endure and challenges we must all learn to face.

Despite criticisms of her story being sensationalized and somewhat lacking in terms of fully exploring the emotional toll divorce takes on women in our society today, Gilbert has become a modern cultural source of inspiration for people to choose happiness after a difficult life transition. Women around the world have derived meaning from her story as a sign of strength and assurance that it is never too late or too difficult to embark on a self-discovery journey alone. Gilbert’s vulnerability and frankness offers refreshing honesty on the topic of heartbreak, divorce, and life after the fact.

Gilbert proves is that divorce is not merely an ending of a relationship; it is an important choice between two people that allows for beautiful new beginnings.

If you are considering filing for divorce, it is important that you consult with an experienced family attorney who will represent you with genuine care and professionalism. Divorce can be a very difficult moment in time, but the right legal representation will take care of you and make the entire process more efficient.

Shuff Law Firm exclusively practices family law and may be of service to those in need of divorce representation. Find them at:

Shuff Law Firm
2107 N Broadway, Santa Ana, CA 92706, USA
(714) 834-0175